Relationships can be complicated. They’ll have their rough patches, the moments where you stop talking or stop texting, and the moments that’ll put both of you to the test. When writing your own fairytale with someone else, sometimes things will keep that long story short. It’s unfortunate, but it happens.
No one said these things were supposed to be easy, but isn’t that what makes it so beautiful? After all, they say that two people will always find their way back to each other from time to time if they’re truly meant to be together
1 Understand That Time Apart Is Needed
When two people decide to break up, there will typically be one side taking the hit harder than the other. If you find yourself struggling to grasp the fact that they’ve decided to move on, then you might be finding it difficult to understand the importance of taking time apart.
It’s highly unrealistic to think the two of you will jump right back into a relationship, and everything will go back to how it was before. These things take time to rebuild, and you have to be patient with yourself. If you don’t have the time to wait, you don’t have the time to rebuild what was once great.
2.Use That Time To Work On Yourself
We’ve established the importance of time apart when you decide to give each other space, now let’s discuss the importance of what you do during that time — until you’re both ready to speak again.
Most people spend their time worrying about their ex, playing back everything their girlfriend or boyfriend told them, thinking about how they’re going to win them back, and trying to keep a tab on them 24/7. That might seem like the right thing to do, but it will likely damage your chances of rekindling anything.
Turn your focus to what makes you happy in life, designate time for your hobbies, passions, and set some personal goals for yourself. Try to get a sense of a normal, day-to-day life again — it could be just what you need!
3 Choose Your Words Wisely: There’s A Difference Between Venting And Belittling
We mentioned the world of emotions you’ll experience when going through a breakup. You mustn’t let these emotions get the best of you. We all have best friends we vent to, and we all have moments where we might say things we don’t really mean.
The key here is to be careful about what you say — and definitely who you tell it to. As a general rule of thumb, it’s best not to say anything hateful or deceitful about your ex to anyone. Even if you believe they’re someone you can trust, it’s best to keep it to yourself. Chances are you’ll regret it later on.
4. Reassess Your True Feelings About The Person
Once you’ve spent some quality time apart and have focused on finding new joy in your life, you’ll want to have an honest conversation with yourself. This conversation is an essential part of the process because time apart can do one of two things:
It could help you realize that it’s time to start moving on and consider dating someone new.
It could help you realize that you’ve never wanted to break up, and you wanted to work things out all along
5. Actions Speak Louder Than Words: Show Them You’re For Real
Not everyone will get a second chance at love with someone, but those that do are a lucky bunch and shouldn’t take it for granted. Simultaneously, showing them, you’ve decided to give them another chance will be far from enough here.
It’s cliché, but actions do speak louder than words, and you’ll want to show those actions sooner rather than later. Please don’t hold back this time; give them everything you have to give, and prove to them you aren’t going to let them slip away again. This is the confirmation they’ve wanted all along.
6. It’s Time To Talk About What Went Wrong In The Relationship
7. Are You Ready To Reach Out To Them And Spark Up A Conversation?