1 Be an intuitive and empathetic listener.
This is truly the basis for many of the positive traits you’ll see on this list. The reason is simple: If you want to know what your partner wants, you have to listen to them.
In theory being an intuitive and empathetic listener sounds good, but sometimes it can be hard to understand what it looks like in practice. It means being present (not just waiting until it’s your turn to talk) and able to follow the rhythm of a good discussion and adapt with it. It also means picking up on details and remembering to bring them up later. If this sounds like work, it’s because it is: Being a thoughtful listener is a skill that must be practiced, honed, and worked on regularly.
2 Be communicative and honest.
In the same way that you would like your partner to articulate their needs directly to you, they very well might be feeling the same thing about your communication style. It should not be your partner’s responsibility to solve your emotional state like some mystery and vice versa. “Couples that don’t learn to consciously communicate will face issues when it comes to intimacy, conflict, and relational growth. Understanding your partner’s inner world and having them understand yours is pivotal to true connection,” therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, tells us
3 Be respectful of other women.
Speaking ill of the women in your life, like an ex-girlfriend or boss, can be interpreted that you don’t respect women as a whole. Of course, not everyone is going to have perfectly pleasant interactions with the people in their lives, women or otherwise. However, it does read as questionable when you make blanket statements like “crazy” or “unreasonable” without being able to articulate why you feel this way. Be mindful of how you speak about women in general.
4 Value personal space.
When you enter a relationship, it might be tempted to let your personal life slide to the wayside. And as you develop said relationship, your lives start to converge naturally anyway. The result? The line between alone time and time together starts to lean in the latter’s direction.
5 Be affectionate.
There are many ways to show your love—and people respond to signals of affection
One of the best traits a man can develop in himself as he dates different women is variety. As long as you’re showing the woman you date that you care about her in different ways—verbally, physically, with favors, time, or gifts—you’ll cover your bases. And then as you grow closer with one partner, you’ll be able to parse out the nuances of your specific love languages.
6 Be open to being wrong.
Defensiveness is a reaction that is deeply human. “We are all wired to protect ourselves, and this can lead to defensive behavior,” says Carroll, explaining that all relationships experience defensive behavior at times. “But if you find that either you or your partner is always on guard, waiting on the front lines to pounce into a defensive mode of communicating, it can be deeply harmful to the relationship
7 Respect her Parents
8 Spend on her